Keeping the peace while making your guest list can be a daunting task. The number of guests you have at your wedding affects everything you do while planning, but creating the list can seem like an incredibly difficult task to start.
While it may seem easy enough to draft up a list of your nearest and dearest, it’s a task that can quickly get out of hand—especially when parents get involved, and you realize that your friends and family may outnumber your budget.
Of course you want to make sure your closest family and friends are there to celebrate with you, so using the easy rules below will help with the process.
Use these 5 simple, yet effective ways to create your wedding guest list:
1. Divide your total head count into three: a third to the bride’s parents, a third to the groom’s parents, and a third to the bride and groom. If someone does not use their allotted number you can always redistribute the spaces.
2. Trim friends you haven’t seen in years. The one year rule is a good rule of thumb and you don’t want to be spending your wedding catching up with people you haven’t seen in three years and didn’t even know you were engaged.
3. Don’t invite co-workers unless they’re really your friends (i.e., you go out with them regularly, and would probably be just as close even if any one of you changed jobs). Remember: If you ask one person out of courtesy, you’ll have to ask them all.
4. Be selective when you write “and guest” next to a name. A tactful way to tell your friends that they can’t bring a date is to tell them that there will be a lot of other singles going without partners. You can also mention that for budget reasons, you had to eliminate a lot of family and colleagues. They will feel special that they made the cut!
5. Have a small wedding of only family and close friends. Then you can have a large cocktail party when you return from your honeymoon to celebrate with everyone else.
Keep in mind, if you start getting stressed out, take a breath and walk away from it for a few days. Come back with a clear mind. And if you’re planning something you’re both not super excited about or that seems overwhelming, take it back to the drawing board. It’s all about enjoying this moment as a couple!
Like any set of rules, there are always exceptions, so use your best judgment.
Finally, you need to be prepared for that incredibly painful moment when someone says, “Congratulations! Am I invited?” Here’s a wonderful opportunity to come up with a phrase that you’ll use countless times after you have said your vows: “Let me check with my spouse/partner and get back to you.”
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